I’ve been a student of happiness for most of my adult life. It began when I was going through a particularly unhappy period where I ended up losing almost everything I loved and cherished in one foul swoop.
It was because of the mental, emotional and physical suffering that I went through that I became determined to understand exactly what happiness is and how I could have more of it, especially when my life was in chaos.
This led me on an inner journey of self-discovery that helped me to understand that happiness is a natural state of being. In other words, it’s always there for you if you know how to tap into it. It’s just that sometimes you get distracted from it because of what you think and feel about what’s going on in your head or your life.
It’s so easy to be drawn into the games the mind plays when it comes to keeping you from being happy. This comes from a deep-seeded belief that most of us have that we don’t deserve to be happy, even when that makes no sense at all logically. It’s just what we’ve been conditioned to believe about ourselves.
When this undercurrent of lack of belief in who we are is in play then the mind naturally gravitates to unhappiness as that’s what it’s expecting to happen anyway. Unhappiness always leads to suffering be it mental, physical, or emotional. The key though is to not get stuck in it and recover as quickly as you can.
To go from unhappiness to happiness is quite simple and doesn’t need to take long at all. In fact, it can be done is seconds. All that’s needed is to get out of your head and be present in your body. The moment you drop into the present moment, happiness, or inner peace as I like to call it, appears.
For many people, happiness seems to be equated to someone or something that triggers a feeling that they relate to being happy. The problem with that concept of happiness is that what happens to your happiness when there is nothing to trigger it?
That’s why I’ve discovered that lasting happiness flows from inner peace. If you think about the last time you were at peace with life, or perhaps you’re feeling that right now, then if you look at that state closely you’ll notice that everything about your life is okay right now. That’s what I called happiness.
It really is as simple as just getting out of your head long enough so that your natural state of peacefulness arises. The only time that you will not be aware of your inner peace is when you allow yourself to be distracted by thoughts or feelings that keep you away from it.
That’s okay too. Don’t judge yourself when you’re in your head – just notice it. There’s something magical happens when you stop judging what’s going on in your head and instead choose to accept it. The magic is that the mind starts to quiet down of its own accord because now you are no longer getting caught up in it.
By accepting your thoughts and emotions as they arise not only does it make your life easier and happier, it also flows onto the lives of others you connect to so that they can feel better about themselves too.
Here’s a short video by Mo Gawdat that sums up what I am saying nicely, please enjoy 🙂