One of my mentors once said to me, “Michael, it’s none of your business what others think about you.”
I sat with that for a while until I finally got it. Since then, I have had this mantra running through my head 24/7. It’s actually been a Godsend as I’ve been able to lean into it whenever someone may be being negative or having a go at me.
When we go through life worrying about what others may be thinking we’re just putting the brakes on being who we truly are.
We get one shot at life (at least this time around) and being n.i.c.e just to keep the peace and not rock the boat only undermines our own self-esteem and integrity.
If you are too much for people then they are NOT your people – move on, unfollow them, block them, or whatever.
There are so many things that are wrong in the world right now and we either sit back and take it up the a$$ like good little citizens or we express our truth and let the chips fall where they will.
When I walked away from my ‘normal’ life and decided to just follow my heart and be true to myself I lost all my friends and my family disowned me (except my mother).
The thing is it actually didn’t bother me a bit as I loved who I was becoming and how my life was. It was so refreshing to not have to ‘fit in’ with family shit anymore or pretend to be someone I wasn’t.
I don’t live to please anyone anymore and it is so liberating. It doesn’t mean I’m not compassionate or kind but it does mean that I won’t modify who I am to fit in or appease the egos of others.
When you stop caring, and I mean really stop caring about trying to please others you will finally be free to be yourself – I promise!
Sometimes, being silent is enough, or simply saying yes or no when you mean it will suffice. Other times, people won’t like what they hear and will want you to make them feel better. Well – just don’t.
Because then you will stay stuck in the emotional manipulation games that everyone else is playing and you will loathe yourself for it on the inside.
Be strong, be courageous, and dare to be yourself as your soul is waiting for you to step the fu@k up and be who you were born to be without any apologies or hesitation.
The world needs your medicine but when it is hidden behind people-pleasing and wearing masks then was it the real slim shady at anyway?